Sliding Doors - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZsiwtCUFqyg&feature=relmfu At time, this may seem absolutely impossible, because the parents can’t tolerate the idea of being connected.
It can be hard to do, but parents can improve a situation by recognizing their divorce is from each other, not the children. Kids need to see that even though their parents might not love each other, they are committed to staying connected because of their responsibilities as parents.
Yet the child needs both of them, psychologically if not in reality. Recognize that for your child to have the best chance of growing up to be a functional human male or female, he/she will need both parents as role models and nurturers. This means that there should be some pathway of getting through to the child whatever good that parent has to offer.